Today at the Museum included a little serendipity. A gentleman came in with his sister to
visit. He was a Hot Wheels collector;
there were doll collectors in his family as well. As it turns out, He worked for Toy Fair in
our own South Park Mall during the 70s.
Toy Fair also had a toy store in
In the bleak midwinter, amid cloudy, snowy, skies, I share some visions of green and St. Patrick's Day to give us all hope.
We had an interesting week; weather had a diabolical mind of its own. One day was cold, damp, slushy, slippery yuck! Made it hard to get from Point A to Point B. No sun for what seemed like weeks, and now it is going to be 52 and sunny, low humidity, finally.
I’ve asked God to forgive me today; I stayed home from Church and choir; exhausted and all kinds of “ouchies.” It doesn’t help when you trip and fall on your guitar case as I did a couple weeks ago, when my guitar gently wept.
Valentine’s Day is imminent, I remind everyone that it is the feast day of St. Valentine, a martyr. As a prisoner, he taught his jailor’s daughter, no small task, since she was blind. There was no Braille or talking books or anything else. The night before he was executed, the saint left her a note, I guess to be read to her, and he signed, “your Valentine.” The miracle associated with Valentine is that after he was martyred, the little girl was able to see. My college age students had tears in their eyes when they read the life of Valentine. My , best Valentine’s Days were with my family and with my class mates, when we exchanged cards through the Valentine Box.
Today, I am cooking, making Panna Cotta, and my mom’s avgolemono soup again (egg lemon). Panna Cotta is my first go round. I’ll let you know. Having new projects, cooking, all inform my art and my writing.
Also inspired by a show on Acorn, Stitch in Time. Narrator demonstrated how no scrap of material went unused in a suit made for Charles II. I thought of later 17th and 18th century dolls, commonly called Queen Anne, where the dresses are often made of strips of different materials sewn together.
Also, my book Toying with Death is now being typeset. The good end is near! Be safe this week and always. Spring is nigh!!
We had an interesting week; weather had a diabolical mind of its own. One day was cold, damp, slushy, slippery yuck! Made it hard to get from Point A to Point B. No sun for what seemed like weeks, and now it is going to be 52 and sunny, low humidity, finally.
I’ve asked God to forgive me today; I stayed home from Church and choir; exhausted and all kinds of “ouchies.” It doesn’t help when you trip and fall on your guitar case as I did a couple weeks ago, when my guitar gently wept.
Valentine’s Day is imminent, I remind everyone that it is the feast day of St. Valentine, a martyr. As a prisoner, he taught his jailor’s daughter, no small task, since she was blind. There was no Braille or talking books or anything else. The night before he was executed, the saint left her a note, I guess to be read to her, and he signed, “your Valentine.” The miracle associated with Valentine is that after he was martyred, the little girl was able to see. My college age students had tears in their eyes when they read the life of Valentine. My , best Valentine’s Days were with my family and with my class mates, when we exchanged cards through the Valentine Box.
Today, I am cooking, making Panna Cotta, and my mom’s avgolemono soup again (egg lemon). Panna Cotta is my first go round. I’ll let you know. Having new projects, cooking, all inform my art and my writing.
Also inspired by a show on Acorn, Stitch in Time. https://acorn.tv/stitchintime. Narrator demonstrated how no scrap of material went unused in a suit made for Charles II. I thought of later 17th and 18th century dolls, commonly called Queen Anne, where the dresses are often made of strips of different materials sewn together.
My book Toying with Death is now being typeset. The good end is near! Be safe this week and always. Spring is nigh!!
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With 2023 comfortably entrenching itself into everyone’s lives, I find myself reminiscing about what made me begin writing. Two things used to happen that influenced me. My uncle Jim read to me from a big book of children’s Bible stories. I still have it, with its beautiful illustrations and large print. It i from the late forties/early fifties, and had belonged to his baby brother, George. Well, three things happened, because George told me stories when I was around four, of Tudor history and Renaissance wars. He also took me to libraries and book stores. The third thing that happened was my Dad making up bedtime stories about the mouse police, and village inhabited by bunnies, squirrels, birds, and other animals that I liked.
Books were always number one in my house, and my mother
signed me up for a child’s book of the month club. Later, I was part of the Great Books after
school program, sort of a grade school book club. I was
first in line at the Scholastic book sales, and sales of used books our
teachers had once in a while.
I liked writing stories in school, as well as little poems. I also enjoyed making stories up for my cousins, and my classmates. By age ten, I was part of a writers group, where three of us wrote stories and shared them with each other.
By junior high, I was doing my own “books”, reports on different topics illustrated with Xeroxed pictures, or illustrations my Mom and I found in old textbooks from Kresge’s and Woolworth’s. They always had a bibliography, and I always got As on them. They may have been homework, but I liked compiling them. Before I learned to type, I wrote the text by hand, laboring to make my handwriting, if not pretty, legible.
Since then, I’ve written, compiled, edited, almost nonstop. I jot notes wherever I can, and have a whole library of journals with ideas, perhaps more than I’ll live to write. I’m still at it, in short.
Saturday, a friend connected with our local writing center brought me some books on dolls, but also some albums her own mother had compiled, full of photos and information on dolls and figurines. I was over the moon. This was a woman who was a kindred spirit. She even used the same albums we had used to create scrapbooks of our family photos and mementos. This urge to compile and conserve has dictated my professional life, and also my museum. I have a book showing my business plan with sketches and ideas. I also have research files and notes, and of course, a very big library. My family is full of artists, teachers, and writers. My grandmother was poor, and only went to school till she was eleven. She and my other grandmother studied to be seamstresses. Yet, my mother’s mother clipped out poems, and held them together with safety pins, making little chapbooks of her own. I have them now, with her quilts, lace doilies, and doll clothes. I’m like one of her quilts, all these pieces of my life sewn together with a pen, and my memories, compiled into books, poems, essays, and more.
Skyward
November 2022
Goodbye, Wendee.
Dear readers,
What follows is the most difficult
article I have ever written. On Friday,
September 23, 2022, my wife Wendee
died. She had been suffering from
metastatic breast cancer for over a decade, but this past summer she was truly
and clearly suffering. We had an
oncologist who was good clinically but who had no bedside manner, and a nurse
practitioner who was very good, but a bit of a pollyanna. Therefore, when Wendee began to destabilize
by the hour near the end of September, I was just not prepared for it.
Wendee and I were together for more
than thirty years, and we were married for the last 25 of them. We got together as the result of a
fix-up. When Wendee’s Mom, Annette Wallach, and my Mom, Edith Pailet Levy, resumed their
childhood friendship in 1985, my father has just died from Alzheimer’s
Disease. They got together in Montreal and immediately shared stories
about their children. Wendee, it turned
out, had just separated from her first husband and I was long since divcorced
from my “practice wife.” They decided to
try to bring us together. Wendee was the
first to reject the idea: “I am a dog
person; he is a cat person,” she said; “I am an athlete, and he is a couch
potato.” (I could say that over time I became a dog person and Wendee became a
couch potato, but I won’t.)
I just ignored my Mom’s suggestion. Every year, or two, Mom would repeat her
idea. After seven years, Mom asked
again, and when I still had not done anything, she annoyingly chastised me and
said, “forget the whole thing. Forget I
ever asked you.” That was a
challenge. On March 23, 1992 (one year
to the day before I took the two photographs that led to the discovery of Comet
Shoemaker-Levy 9 that would strike Jupiter in 1994) I typed out a post card to her in Las Cruces. She replied and we finally met that
summer. After lunch and a conversation
with her and her two sisters, I returned to Clyde and Patsy Tombaugh’s
house,where I was staying. When Patsy
answered the door she asked ”Well, how
did your date go?” I looked at her and
replied, “Patsy, I have just spent time
with the three most beautiful women I have ever met!”
Early in our relationship, we were
driving near Las Cruces. It was a clear
dark night and we got out of the car.
Wendee looked up and asked me,
“What star is that?”
“That bright star,” I
answered her, “is Vega.” Just then
Wendee recalled that her first husband, long since divorced, had warned her
that he would never answer her questions more than once. Wendee then inquired of me, “David, if I were to ask you every night,
looking at that same star, the same
question, ‘What star is that?’ what
would you do?”
“I would explain to
you, every night,” I replied, “that star is Vega. “And I would never, ever, tire of it.”
On another evening I was driving Clyde and
Patsy Tombaugh back from a dinner engagement.”
Clyde was sitting up front with me, and Wendee was in the back seat with
Patsy. “Clyde, I am going to take you
home first and then I will take Wendee home.”
“David,” why not just
drop Wendee off on the way? It would be
faster.”
“Clyde I may want to
hug her and give her a big kiss.”
“That’s okay. We’ll wait!”
The group in the car
got silent. I looked back towards
Wendee, then to Clyde, and I said, “Clyde, I am taking you and Patsy home
first.” As Wendee and Patsy giggled in
the back seat, Clyde said, “OK. Now that you explain it!”
Wendee And I were
married in the Flandrau Science Center on March 23 (that magic date again)
1997. The reception at our home featured
Comet Hale-Bopp and a lunar eclipse. Our
first few months were difficult. Gene
Shoemaker was killed in a car accident in Australia that July, and I had two
cancer surgeries (prostate and right kidney) later that year. But as I recovered, our marriage became fun
and interesting. We travelled
everywhere. Possibly her favorite trip
was to the outback near Alice Springs, where we observed over two thousand
meteors on a single night in November 2001.
Because for a short period we saw one meteor per second, I considered
the Leonids that year a meteor storm.
We took three trips to
Israel together, the last two of which were part of my doctoral work at the
Hebrew University on the night sky in Shakespeare’s time. I loved that particular period in my life,
and Wendee and I had a lot of fun navigating the multitude of rules and
regulations that the University appeared to make up as we went along. Near the end of that process, I wrote a
routine question about the dimensions of the European paper I needed to
use. The next morning I found Wendee
looking at her email. “I need for you to
read this message now,” she said. “Is it
good news?”
“I do think so.” The letter was from the Hebrew University,
announcing that the University Senate had just awarded my Ph. D. and that they
hoped we would come to Israel to receive the degree in person. We spent the remainder of that happy day
making flight arrangements.
Wendee served as
director of our Jarnac Observatory, and I served as her assistant. I used it every clear night. During the 26 years we lived in our Vail
home, I discovered only one comet, in
2006. The comet was confirmed by the
Central Bureau for Astronomical Telegrams just as we returned home from the Yom
Kippur services. I was so overwhelmed by
the message that I printed it, and then without a word, cried as I walked back
to the house and showed it to Wendee.
Wendee’s greatest joy
was not so much me, but our daughter Nanette and our grandchildren Summer and
Matthew. One night, when she was a
college student, our granddaughter Summer contacted us to inquire of a bright
red star she noticed high in the southern sky.
What followed was a wonderful conversation about Mars, Percival Lowell,
and the possibilities of life somewhere on that distant world. Our grandson Matthew provided us with golden
opportunities to show how, when he looks at the stars, he can escape the
chatter of the nightly news and appreciate the big picture of the night sky and
the Universe at our doorstep.
Our marriage gave me
an opening to write some books, but my favorite book began when one morning I
found Wendee reading intently. “You never told me you wrote a book about your
dog when you were ten years old.” She
found that crazy old book the most delightful she had seen, and she wanted me
to revise it.
By this time, around
2013, she had received her diagnosis of breast cancer. For years she did very well, until the end of
last summer when she needed surgery to remove her ovaries. After that she began chemotherapy, which
worked for a few months.
By the spring of 2022
all the treatments stopped working.
Wendee insisted that I go to this year’s Adirondack Astronomy Retreat,
but she was obviously suffering. We made
a 911 call in mid September, and a second one two weeks later. In between
I presented her with the first copy of Clipper, my new book for
children. She was able briefly to hold
it up and examine the front and back covers.
With that second 911, I was
pretty certain she would never be coming home.
Wendee died on Friday evening, September 23. She was 73 years old.
The night before her
funeral, our son-in-law Mark, our grandson Matthew, and I were enjoying an
evening in the observatory. Matthew saw
a bright meteor, and as I questioned him
on its direction, I saw a faint one.
Mark saw a third meteor. I like
to think that this minor outburst of the October Cygnid meteor shower – three
meteors within a period of about 5 minutes – were Wendee’s goodbye. Rest in peace, my sweet Wendee.
